Do you have a problem or is it just me
I’m sorry I’ve been so cold these last couple of months. That’s what I would say, if it wasn’t against my principles to apologise. Apologizing has been politicised, and therefore cannot be done between equals. Maybe it never could, but it has now, at least, been made explicit.
How to express apology, without apologizing? I claim no mistake, I claim no responsibility. It is in my interest that you see me, that you understand me. I feel that between friends, true friends, there is no need for apology; to apologise would be to affirm hierarchy between us, even if just for a moment. And I do not want that. It is my interest that you be my peer. I would say, there is nothing you have ever done that made me hate you. There is nothing you could ever do or say, to make me hate you. But I don’t want to emasculate you.
There are two problems.
One, I have certain beliefs about life and the world that I am certain that you do not share. Being my beliefs, I am quite convinced that I am right and you are mistaken, and that if I were to extend them to you, I believe I could convince you of them. I’m arrogantly quite certain of it.
There are problems that you have, which I believe I could solve for you, or at least, give you the solution…
